Respect

I knew a guy who was concerned that he wasn’t getting the appropriate amount of respect from his family. He was a rugged and tough-acting kind of guy who provided well for his family. One you wouldn’t expect to utter this type of need.

It went back to how his parents treated him. He had placed several layers of protection around himself as a result of that treatment. No physical or sexual abuse occurred but some perceived emotional stuff.

I don’t think his family was too concerned about his emotional needs. After all he was expected to be the leader and supposed to take care of their needs.

His view of respect was different from his family’s view.

Is respect in the eye of the beholder? I think so. Many men think if they overcome the obstacle, achieve the goal or accomplish the task they will be respected. Possibly by their peers but even that isn’t guaranteed.

Families see respect differently. It’s all about character. Keeping commitments, doing what you say you will do, encouraging, teaching, loving, being honest – just being there.

Are you doing the right things for your family? The things God wants you to do?

If you aren’t getting respect then look at yourself first. Don’t blame your family, friends or co-workers.

Did Jesus demand or expect respect as He led the disciples? Jesus wanted to please God, to honor and glorify Him.

What will it be for you? Here’s a hint: I don’t think God likes whiners!